Lovers Can Be 'Losers': The Power of Exercising in Pairs

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DUMP THAT GINORMOUS box of chocolates on Valentine's Day, urges Bob Harper. As a trainer on NBC's "The Biggest Loser," he's seen that when people show their loved ones that they care with food, the result is all too often obesity.

The current season of the show, which features the heaviest cast ever, is the third time the show has chosen to focus on couples -- husbands and wives, parents and children, and siblings. The idea isn't just to add an emotional gimmick, but to dig deeper into what caused the behaviors that have driven the contestants to such dangerously high weights. "You always hear about people who've gotten overweight because they got into a relationship," Harper says. "You pick up what is going on around you, whether it's what your mother taught you or what you do with your best friend."

But salads and Spinning classes can be just as contagious as weekends on the couch with a six-pack and bags of chips. "Following the same path, you can encourage each other in a good way," Harper says. Having someone close keep you accountable means you can find the motivation to head out the front door and go for a jog even when it's pouring rain. There's someone else in the kitchen to keep you company while you cook healthier meals. And, of course, you always have a workout buddy.

"Any time you can involve each other, that's another intimate bonding moment," Harper says. He's a fan of couples yoga -- either doing poses simultaneously or switching off so you can check each other's form. But every kind of physical activity can become a two-person job. "I even know a couple that has Pilates reformer tables set up side by side," he adds.

So, what if your S.O. refuses to play ball (or participate in any other physical activity)? "You get that a lot," Harper warns. "And if you're both not in it, it's harder for the person who still is." That's when it's time to broaden your perspective on who you want to pair up with to achieve your goals. Maybe your perfect exercise match isn't your husband or girlfriend, but your cousin or your co-worker, Harper suggests.

No matter who you choose, remember that one person is bound to see benefits before the other. Try not to get too frustrated by that or fall into competition mode. "Keep it really positive. I don't like when someone's got to win," he adds. (Harper must see enough of that on the show.)

And as for that Valentine's Day present, just because chocolate is out doesn't mean you can't get something extra-special for the holiday. Harper's suggestion: a couples session with a personal trainer.

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